Romance in the old days often called for the male to pursue the female. The female would often rebuff the first few advances maybe in part to insure the suitor was indeed serious. If I recall correctly both Harry Truman and Dwight Eisenhower were initially turned down several times when asking their future first ladies to go out on a date.
It occurred to me that probably doesn't work any more. I think a guy is more apt to just move on today if told no by a potential partner. No guy wants to be that creepy guy or look like a stalker. Not sure if this is an improvement or not. Seems like maybe just another step in making things more superficial though.
Anyway - just a random thought.
It may have also been a factor of people moving in smaller circles hundred years ago than today. Our nation's population has more than tripled since those two were looking for mates. Add in fact that people are a lot more mobile today and a guy in most cases has more choices now than in days gone by.
ReplyDeleteDon't discount that women and the feminist movement took large steps to make it that way.
ReplyDeleteWhen a guy that asks twice is described as 'creepy' and "a stalker", why would any guy even try?
Fact is, the best thing a guy can possibly do is garner up a mentality of abundance (there are plenty of fish in the sea) and if a woman says no, then move on. Persistence is seen as "rapey" in this day and age.
Its just the way societies change.
Don't discount that women and the feminist movement took large steps to make it that way.
ReplyDeleteWhen a guy that asks twice is described as 'creepy' and "a stalker", why would any guy even try?
Fact is, the best thing a guy can possibly do is garner up a mentality of abundance (there are plenty of fish in the sea) and if a woman says no, then move on. Persistence is seen as "rapey" in this day and age.
Its just the way societies change.
I agree with both of you. Today in general we move in smaller circles and in one of those circles - work - you run he risk of "harassment" if you were to ask a co-worker out even once never mind a second time.
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